Thrive Coach Training

Module 19: Tool #18 Challenging My Thoughts (The Work of Byron Katie)


The purpose of Challenging My Thoughts is to help your Thrivers question their thinking.

The Work of Byron Katie or, simply, The Work, is a both a method and practice of inquiry - based on four questions and a turn-around statement - that your Thriver can use when they have thoughts that are causing them stress, pain or suffering.

Please refer to and for more detailed information. There is also an entire library of videos on and youtube that you can review to help you understand and know how to facilitate The Work more deeply and skillfully.


Together with your Thriver, identify any painful or stressful thoughts. These usually take the form of some kind of judgement about other people, the world or yourself. Ask your Thriver to write these thoughts down.

Go through the four questions of The Work with your Thriver:

1.  Is it true?
(The answer will be yes or no. Nothing else. If it is yes, go to question 2. If it is no, go to question 3.)

2.  Can you absolutely know that it is true?
If your Thriver answered ‘yes’ to question 1, this question can be an opportunity to reflect more deeply on their answer. Can they absolutely know it’s true?

3.  How do react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
What does your Thriver feel and / or see in their mind’s eye when they believe the thought? How do they behave when they believe the thought?

4.  Who would you be without that thought?
Ask your Thriver to imagine they simply cannot think the original thought. Who would they be without it? How would they feel?


Invite your Thriver to find opposites to the original thought they wrote down. Is the opposite true or truer than the original thought?

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