Some kids need more rules, some kids need less. Some kids need structure, and some avoid it. The only way to know what is best for your children is to understand their needs. This week, you will learn about the Individual Centered principle. The more you understand their needs, the more you will understand how to reach them. By putting them first you will learn why they act out, how to motivate them, how to talk to them, and how to build a strong relationship. In the first video, Dr. Jacob will explain how to take an Individual Centered approach. In the second video, Dr. Joseph Kashiwagi (the youngest of the Kashiwagi family) will share stories from his children showing what Individual Centered looks like from a child’s perspective. Proceed to the activity afterward.

Read Chapter 5 from Dr. Jacob’s book, No-Influence Mentoring (Purchase Link), or download a chapter excerpt HERE.

This week, set aside time to talk to your child one-on-one. Ask with them about their life and how they feel about things. You may need to start by asking them about a topic or interest of theirs and how it relates to their life.

Write down your observations and thoughts (Did you learn something new? How well did you know your child? What are your observations of their life? How do they feel?). If you were unable to do it, due to their unwillingness, please write down your thoughts and ideas of what you can do to grow closer to your child.

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